Top 10 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

The Top 10 Reasons Why Men Pull Away From a Relationship

A man suddenly pulling away from a relationship is something that happens to a lot of women.

You think that the two of you are doing okay, and then they suddenly break up with you. Or they don’t even bother with a formal break up; they simply stop calling you and avoid seeing you at all costs.

What’s going on?

For women who can’t understand why the man in their life has suddenly stopped calling them or is actively avoiding them, here are the top 10 reasons why men pull away.

1. He is afraid of commitment. This is a very common problem for a lot of men. There are several reasons why a man may fear commitment. Maybe his parents got divorced when he was a child. Maybe he has suffered through a difficult breakup. He might be afraid that he will lose his freedom if he gets involved in a committed relationship. Whatever the reason, a fear commitment is very common and when a relationship starts to get serious, a man that is afraid of commitment will pull away.
2. You start talking about a commitment just after you started dating. Let’s say you’ve just had one or two dates, and the guy is just enjoying being in your company. And then all of a sudden you start talking about exclusively dating each other or start referring to the two of you as ‘us’ or ‘we’. Even a man that does not have a commitment phobia will pull away if you come on too strong, too soon.
3. You’ve already become intimate. Let’s face it; this happens. Sometimes, a man just wants to have sex with you, and once he’s already gotten what he wants, he will pull away. If a man is avoiding you after you have sex, you should realize that he probably doesn’t want to have a relationship with you.
4. You act too needy. One of the behaviors that turn most men off is when women are too clingy, which means they are too demanding of affection. Being needy can express itself in a number of ways, including constantly fishing for approval or appreciation and looking for praise in order to boost your self-confidence. This is a turn-off to men because they don’t want to deal with your lack of self-esteem when they have so many other issues going on in their lives.
5. You start talking about your future together. This is similar to talking about commitment but rather than bringing it up directly, talking about a future together is more like hinting about commitment. This is one behavior that is surely designed to turn men off particularly if they feel they are not yet ready to settle down. This is mainly a problem if you are still in the early stages of a relationship, before the man has even decided if he wants to date you exclusively. If you have only been dating a short time and you already start talking about marriage and children it could push a man away.
6. You suddenly say you love him. This may not seem like such a big thing to you, but for men, it may be akin to being asked to commit because they are implicitly being asked to say it back to the woman, and they may not be ready for that because they are not sure about their feelings.
7. You try to change him. This is one of the worst things a woman can do, particularly if you are just dating. It’s okay to make comments about the way a man dresses, but when you start criticizing his friends or his interests, this is a red flag to a man that a woman is not a keeper because she is not willing to accept him for who he is.
8. You make him feel insecure. You start to date and after a while he starts to feel self-conscious because you have a better job than him or he feels that you’re out of his league, so he pulls away. This is really his problem and an issue that he has to work through, but it could still cause a man to pull away.
9. He doesn’t want to acknowledge that he is ready for a commitment. Men often have trouble dealing with what they feel. They may be ready for a relationship but they need time to figure out how they feel and what they want to do about it.
10. You don’t say what you really mean. Instead of telling him what you want, you somehow expect him to know instinctively, and then you get angry when he doesn’t give it to you or understand what you are trying to say. Men are not mind readers but a lot of women seem to expect them to be.