Why Men Pull Away

Fear of Commitment Is the Main Reason Why Men Pull Away

At the heart of why men pull away from women in relationships is the fear of commitment.

They might like being with a woman, they might want to be in a relationship with them, but they are afraid of making a commitment. Understanding what lies at the root of this fear of commitment will help women deal with it when the time comes; when they feel their man pulling away after they’ve been dating for a while. One of the interesting things to understand is that women and men view commitment in different ways. Women look at commitment as giving them a sense of security, while men see commitment as something that will result in the loss of some things that are precious to them.

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What are some of the things that men fear of losing when they commit to a relationship?

1. They are afraid to lose their freedom. When men are in a committed relationship, they can no longer just do what they want to do. For example, if they want to take off for the weekend with their buddies, they can no longer simply do so without having to clear it with their significant other, who might say no. All of a sudden they feel trapped, and they don’t like that feeling.
2. They don’t want to lose their personal space. Committing to a relationship means at some point moving in together. All of a sudden, men can no longer do with their living space what they want to do. If they want to fill it with their toys, they can no longer do so because they have to share it with their girlfriend, who might complain. If, in the past, they could just leave their clothes lying around, now they have to clean up after themselves.
3. They can no longer enjoy sexual variety. When men enter into a committed relationship, they are essentially saying they will have sex with only one person and can no longer pursue other sexual partners.
4. They are afraid of losing their identity. When a man is in a relationship with a woman, they are worried that their partner will try to change them. For example, it might start when the woman starts telling him how to dress. Then after a while she starts telling him how to behave and before they know it, they have made serious changes in their personality and they can no longer recognize themselves. They are no longer the happy-go-lucky guy they’ve always been and are now the domesticated guy who always has to rush to go home.
5. They are afraid of losing other possibilities in their lives. If a man is in a committed relationship, they can no longer decide that they want to be a musician or a race car driver. They have to pursue a responsible, stable career with a nine-to-five schedule.

What can you do when you are confronted with a fear of commitment?

First, you will need a lot of understanding. It can be very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who is scared of commitment, since you’ll have to deal with things like broken dates and unreturned phone calls as the man tries to stress the fact that they still have their freedom. You may even have to ask yourself if you think this relationship is worth it.

If you believe that you want to stay in the relationship, then you will have to be very patient. You will have to spend a lot of time soothing the man’s fears that being in a relationship is not like being trapped in a cage and that he can still live his own life. You may even have to talk with his friends and relatives about his fears in an attempt to understand why they are afraid of commitment. For example, they may have had a bad experience in the past. Or their parents may have had a bad relationship, and they are afraid of repeating the pattern. If you can help a man realize that he doesn’t have to be afraid of losing his freedom and his identity, it will be easier for him to make a commitment.

As you can see, there are many weird reasons why men pull away that can be contributed to fear of commitment, read on to find out the other 9 reasons why men pull away in “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Pull Away“.