There are often news stories about research studies that have been done where the researchers tell us something that we already know.
Things like “eating too much sugar will make you fat” or “combining drugs and alcohol can be dangerous.”
This has in fact happened with men and commitment as well.
Help Him Get Past His Fear of Commitment
It is no secret to most women that a lot of men have a fear of commitment, but now there is a research study that confirms it. An article on Fox news.com states that fear of commitment may be in a man’s genes. So what can you as a woman do about this? If you want to know how to get a guy to commit, you will have to help them get past his fear of commitment.
Why Men Are Afraid to Commit and What You Can Do about It
Below I am going to quickly talk about some of the most common reasons that men fear commitment, and to give you some strategies to help eliminate that fear.
He Cannot Be Tied down to One Woman
If the man you are dating is afraid of being tied down to one woman for the rest of his life, he is clearly not ready for commitment and it would be best if you just dumped him and moved on. If you are dating a player, you can expect to get hurt. If you are reading this page, you are probably looking for tips on how to get a guy to commit, but in this case, you do not want a commitment from this guy. It is better to just move on.
He Is Afraid of Losing His Freedom
A lot of men are afraid of commitment because they believe that getting involved in a committed relationship will result in the loss of their freedom.
He may think that he would be expected to spend all of his free time with you and he will not be able to go out with his friends or enjoy his current hobbies. He may be afraid that he will not be able to make any decisions without getting your approval first.
To help him overcome this fear, there are some steps you can take to demonstrate that making a commitment to you will not result in a loss of his freedom. If he likes to get together with his friends once a week to play poker or watch a football game, encourage him to do so and do not give him a hard time about running off with his friends and not spending time with you. If you encourage him to spend time with his friends and pursue his hobbies, his fear of losing that freedom once he gets involved in a committed relationship will go away.
If he goes out with his friends or has a hobby that you are not interested in, it does not mean that you have to sit around at home alone. You should also go out with your friends and pursue your own hobbies. If both of you have your own separate interests, you will each be happier and more fulfilled, and the time you do spend together will be even more memorable.
He Has Been Hurt In the Past
Some men are afraid of commitment because they have been in a destructive relationship before and they do not want to get hurt again.
A man may have gone through a divorce, and if so, he is going to be a lot more careful about the woman he chooses to marry if he decides to get married again. If a guy was head over heels in love with his girlfriend, but she dumped him or cheated on him, it could take a while for him to get over that and be open to commitment again.
If you are dating a man who has been hurt in the past, the good news is that he has demonstrated that, at some point in his life, he was not afraid of commitment. Most men that have been in a committed relationship before would like to be in a committed relationship again. Many of them simply need a little bit of time. Time to either get over the heartache of the previous relationship, or time to get to know you well enough to be sure that you are the one for them.
If your man falls into this category, the solution is to simply give him the time and space he needs. If he wants to talk about the things that are bothering him, be there to listen to him. If he does not want to talk about it, respect his wishes and do not push too hard to try to get information or to try to make him feel better. Trying to force him to talk about his feelings when he is not ready will actually push him away.
Give him the space he needs and he will be willing to make a commitment when he is ready.